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GRIEFABET EveryDayGrief Letters to Wrap Around Your Heart

kjohnson — Sun, 17 Jul 2011 03:36:27 +0000

NEW BOOK USES ALPHABET TO COPE WITH THE CHAOS OF LOSS! All of us have people in our lives that we care about. GRIEFABET EveryDayGrief Letters to Wrap Around Your Heart is a book for showing love and concern to someone who is hurting. It takes the Language of Loss and uses a letter of the alphabet and can be read one page at a time, any day, any hour. It is a pleasant tour through the alphabet of letters that describe a feeling, support for whatever the reader is experiencing, and offers a tip that might relieve tension. Preview pages at www.griefabet.com. Something you May Not Know: Flowers are nice, but this is another way to offer support, and lasts a long time while sitting on the bookshelf, ready to be picked up when energy permits.When a person experiences a loss, it is a lonely experience. No one else can really understand the misery and disruption it causes in lives. Why I Wrote Griefabet:When I was ten my Grandpa died when I was visiting him and Grandma in their rural town. I was devastated and can still remember how bewildered I felt. Now, after working as a school counselor for 37 years, focusing on grief and loss and its affect on us, this book oozed from the heart! GIVEAWAY: Leave a comment on GRIEFABET blog and receive a free sympathy card.EveryDayGrief, LLC greeting card has beautiful water colors with a note on the front “losing one you love hurts so much,” with the inside blank to write your own note. Sleek envelope plus protective plastic cover included. Email info@everydaygrief.com after you make a comment to this blog and leave your address. It will be mailed. How You could use GRIEFABET: -Give a keepsake sympathy gift - Griefabet is a perfect condolence gift for someone you love

· –Read in any order, any way you like - Griefabet has no rules, just like the experience of disappointment

- Loss comes in many forms - Griefabet is a comfort book for anyone living with loss See Karen’s live interview on national television on “The Balancing Act” www.everydaygrief.com. Tour the Author’s Blogging Pary! Visit https://www.facebook.com/BookWise Publishing, https://twitter.com?webprincessmeg and http://twitter.com/bookwisepublish

Grief Tip #5

kjohnson — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 17:21:47 +0000

Change causes loss and grief. Then re-adjustment begins… very difficult.

Grief Tip #4

kjohnson — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 03:43:09 +0000

Grief Tip #4: Change causes grief. “As it used to be” is altered.

Grief Tip #3

kjohnson — Wed, 01 Dec 2010 04:57:16 +0000

Grief is lonely. No one can really understand what you are feeling.

Grief Tip #2

kjohnson — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 22:58:09 +0000

Grief is a reaction to a loss that has affected our life.

Grief Tips

kjohnson — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 18:16:09 +0000

New to GriefTimes are GriefTips!

Grief Tip #1 Grief is always about a loss; but not always about a death.

Stay tuned for more GriefTips!

Finding your Griefspace

kjohnson — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 05:05:42 +0000

You will know when your heart is telling you these days are not like they used to be. Whether it is a special get-together or a routine day, the chain of change will twist your heart. Feel this uncomfortableness and find a place that you can go to and bask in some solitary, quiet time to miss what you have lost. This is your griefspace. Go to it whenever it invites you - and - make it private and uninterruptable! No time limit!

Holidays are Hard

kjohnson — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 23:13:10 +0000

And so, another set of Holiday music, gift-giving, laughter, food, and celebration are among us. Somehow, it feels differently if you are newly-living or still-living WITHOUT your loved one. In one second, life changed when they quit breathing.

How do we survive such a season full of giving, gratitude and cheer, when the hole in our heart is still gaping and so painful? Some things that might help you survive the pain:

Lean In to the pain. Set your timer and feel as miserable as you can for 5 minutes. Your heart will appreciate this schedule to allow it to beat it agony while missing your loved one.

It is okay to not listen to, sing, buy, give, or tolerate holiday songs. Turn it off on your radio or television, or technology toys, walk out of a store, do not eat in that restaurant, or buy you a pair of earmuffs. Life has changed.�

What to Say and Do When Someone You Care About is Dying

kjohnson — Thu, 28 May 2009 19:24:55 +0000

It must be lonesome to know you are dying.

· They are not contagious, visit them.

· Call ahead and arrange a time if they feel like it.

· Talk the truth.

· Visit about topics you normally would.

· Flowers and treats do not matter; time and caring do.

· Keep the visit short.

· Hug them and kiss them if they feel like it.

· Phone, write notes, and visit when you can.

· If they want to talk about death, listen. If they do not, that is okay. It is THEIR impending death.

· Write them notes and mail them.

Sympathy Note Ideas

Mail your card a few weeks after the death.

Share any specific memories of the person who died.

Use the deceased’s name.

Share a favorite thought or poem.

Express love, concern and caring for them.

Write a note to the survivor on their loved one’s birthday.

Be honest and say you cannot imagine how horrible they must feel.

Say simply: I am thinking of you.

If you have pictures of their loved one, send the family copies.

Communication matters. It is nice to be thought about.

Other thoughtful remembering times are: Memorial Day, Valentine’s Day, Holidays, Anniversaries, Death Date, Birth Date

Links

www.icebreakers.ws <http://www.icebreakers.ws>

Uncomforting Things To Say To Someone Who Has Had A Loved One Die

kjohnson — Thu, 28 May 2009 19:24:04 +0000

“Call me if you need anything.”

“You look tired.”

“It is God’s will.”

“Things always work out for the best.”

“Life goes on.”

“You should ____________.”

“They would not want you to be sad.”

“He/she is better off.”

“I know how you feel.”

“It’s been a year now.”

“Move on.”

“Aren’t you over it yet?”

“You really need to be getting on with your life.”

“Call me if you need me.

“They aren’t hurting anymore.”

“What can I do to help you?”

“Be strong.”

“Your religion will take away your sadness.”

“You should get out more.”

“You better be sure and eat.”

“You don’t really mean that.”

“You just need some time.”

“You will get over this.”

“Time heals all wounds.”

“You should be doing better by now.”